Emphasis On Moms
December 2005 Issue
By Subscription Only
ISSN: 1529~269x
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Happy Holidays and welcome to our new subscribers this month! I am so happy to welcome you as part of the Emphasis On Moms family! I hope you reap many encouraging thoughts from the monthly newsletter issues.
This issue, I want to give you a chance to share a little bit of your heart with me as I have done in the past. Let me know where you are personally, emotionally, and spiritually. It helps me feel more connected to you; and to know how to write and reach your heart better in future issues.
Please send your thoughts to me at emphasisonmoms@qwest.net

Warm Hugs,
Dionna Sanchez

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Inside:

Impact & Inspirational Quote
Home Impressions: In The Crook of My Arms
Memory Lane: You've Been Thanked!
Potpourri: Creative Ideas
Details: Generosity of Spirit
Treasure Box: Philippians 4:11
What's New on the Website? What Really Matters
A Mom Minute: Facing Our Fears
Nurture Your Soul: Attitude Check
Heartstrings: Matters of the Heart
Words: Some Days
Applause! (Lady of the Month): Bree
Creative Expressions: Leaf Tablecloth
Timeout: Grocery Store Tensions
Romance Factor: Ideas for keeping your marriage romantic

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*IMPACT*

The biggest disease this world suffers from is people feeling unloved. ~ Princess Diana

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*HOME IMPRESSIONS*
In The Crook of My Arms ~ By Marsha Maung

His head tilted back, mouth slightly open. His breath is slow and steady and his eyes almost all-closed but slightly open. His neck nestles over the crook of my arm and I stare at his face as he breathed in and breathed out. A feeling of overwhelming love washed over me. I was totally at peace as I watched my son sleep in my arms.
I must say that there's absolutely nothing quite like it at all.
When was it that he got so big? He's almost too big to fit into my arms as his legs dangled off the edge of my other arm. He speaks almost in adult-fashion now but in child lingo. He has mastered the art of writing and drawing a very funny and 'individualistic' sketch of the sun and a smiley face. He is old enough to tell me that his favorite color is red and favorite number is 4. I know I am his mom but the effects of being a protector, a caregiver; a mom has never failed to astound me.
Sometimes daily needs outweigh the needs of our children. Their need to have us by their sides to kiss the wounds and to heal the tantrums. They need us & now what else can be more important than that. They need us to tell them that it's OK when others are not nice to them and that they don't have to avenge the bad behavior of others. They need us to tell them that it's OK to feel bad when they've made a mistake and are asked to say sorry for the mistakes. They need us to bring them out in the playground and teach them about nature, about living and about the world. They need us. Period.
There are times that I wonder if I should just give up the working arrangement that I have fiercely fought for the past 5 years and go back into the rat race. There are weak moments when I wonder if I have done the wrong thing and have pampered them by trying to be an overly 'positive' parent. I wonder too, if my kids are good kids or bad kids. But now I know, there's no such thing as a bad kid; and a good kid is a stroke of luck.
Everything becomes worthwhile when he runs over to me and shouts, "Mommy!!! My mommy!" and comes crashing into me, bumping my nose and cracking my lips with his forehead. He buries his head into my shoulder and I bury mine into his. We stay in that position for a full minute before we peel apart and start planting wet kisses all over each others' faces. We don't care about germs, do we? I just want to kiss him until the day I die & just kiss him senseless and no one can tell me that I can't kiss my own baby that way.
But till when will this luxury last? Our kids are borrowed treasures for we know they won't remain babies for very long. My babies won't need me for very long now. Soon, they'll be old enough to prefer their friends to me. Soon enough, they'll want to go out with their friends and won't want me to tag along. Soon enough, they'll only speak to me when they want my car or want me to pay their cell phone or Internet bills for them. Soon enough, they'll have a life of their own and mine is kicked aside.
So, for now, I treasure this 3-year-old baby in my arms, lying so soundlessly sleeping in the crook of my arms. He fits just perfect right now.
How I wish he would fit into my arms like that for the rest of my life…and his. But I know he won't. And that's one BIG, FAT reason to treasure the moments now.

~ By Marsha Maung
http://www.marshamaung.com

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*MEMORY LANE*
You've Been Thanked! ~ By Dionna Sanchez

Type or write out the words "You've Been Thanked" in huge letters in the middle of a piece of paper. Then draw or put a picture that represents Thanksgiving on it (something like a turkey, cornucopia, pumpkins, fall leaves, pilgrims, etc).
Put together a little bag of fun surprises or treats…. Maybe a bag of candy corn, a Thanksgiving coloring book for the kids, and a small Thanksgiving decorating item to place around the house. Give them something small and simple to show your appreciation.
Then attach a little note to the bag that tells them they are being thanked for being a great (neighbor, pastor, friend,) person and that you just wanted them to feel special and have a great Thanksgiving.
Keep one copy of the sign and put it on your door so people know you've receiving a bag (if you started this you don't want to have to put together two bags) and tell the recipient that they have to thank someone else and "pass it on."
You ring the doorbell and leave before they see who thanked them.
This is a great way to pass on a sense of appreciation in your children and in others.

~ Dionna Sanchez watches for fun ideas to share with you. Visit her site at http://www.EmphasisOnMoms.com/

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*POTPOURRI*

Place a mum inside of a hollowed-out pumpkin for a pretty, fall look.

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*DETAILS*
Generosity of Spirit ~ By Dionna Sanchez

Giving to others seems to be something we focus on more in-depth as the holidays approach. There are so many outlets in which we can give:

*Giving Trees
*Operation Shoebox
*Toys for Tots
*Salvation Army Bell Ringers
and more.

Yet unless we place an emphasis on giving year-round….our children may not understand that having a generous heart is part of who you are all of the time & not just something you do on occasion.
There are so many ways your family can encourage generosity each and every day.

*Deliver food to a new mom or a sick mom and have your child(ren) accompany you.

*Tithe at church and have your children give change in their own Sunday School classes.

*Have your children donate toys and clothes to a local charity on a regular basis.

*Sponsor a child as a family.

*Have your children go through their books, CD's, and movies and take them down to your local library and have them personally donate their old ones.

*Encourage your children to make/create crafts, drawings, and letters for family, friends, teachers, coaches, and neighbors.

*Visit grandparents, elderly neighbors, or shut-ins with homemade cookies or goodies.

*Volunteer together. Plant a tree on Arbor Day, pick up litter, and help someone who is moving pack boxes….

*Open your home to others often and have your children help in offering graciousness to guests.

I challenge you to ask yourself if you are raising children who have a generous spirit. If not, it might be time for your family to focus on this important character quality.


~ Dionna Sanchez has brought her children along as she has made dinners for new moms and donated books to the library. Her family also sponsors a child in Haiti through Compassion International. Learn how to instill more character qualities in your children & visit - http://www.emphasisonmoms.com/reprints.htm

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*TREASURE BOX*
Philippians 4:11


I have learned how to be content in whatever state I am.

Our lives are not always going to go smoothly or without stressful and challenging times. These are the times that we need to lean on the Lord and trust in Him. God wants to see us rely on Him in both the good and bad times of our lives.

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*WHAT'S NEW ON THE WEBSITE?"


Join Dionna in her quest to remember to enjoy the delights of the everyday little things that God has blessed us with. The things that bring focus, renewal, joy, and a smile.... this month read about "What Really Matters"

http://www.emphasisonmoms.com/awards1.htm

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*A MOM MINUTE*
Facing Our Fears ~ By Dionna Sanchez

If you are like most moms; you have a lot of fears that infiltrated your life once you gave birth to children. You may be afraid of flying and crashing, child molesters, getting terminally ill or sick, your children getting hurt…and countless other fears. If you're not careful these fears can grow and rule your life.
We are faced with bad news every time we turn on the television and so we can constantly be reminded of the "what if's." This in turn can cause us to parent our children out of fear instead of love.
If you want to have a healthy home and family, you need to face your fears. Realize that God is in control….not you.
We can always exercise wisdom and caution in our lives, but not to the point that it prevents us (or our children) from enjoying or participating in life.
Just because you agree to let your child do something doesn't mean you won't worry about them. And your own personal fears in life will take time to confront and overcome. But use your fears as a way to communicate with your children and to get educated on the facts. Use the opportunities that come up as outlets for planning and preparing for those "what-if's" instead of just merely hiding from them.

~ Dionna Sanchez is constantly learning to face her fears with God's strength. You can read more words from Dionna's heart at http://www.emphasisonmoms.com/pen_&_paper1.htm

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*NURTURE YOUR SOUL*
Attitude Check ~ By Dionna Sanchez

Our emotions can affect our whole family. As a woman and not just a mother…that can be hard sometimes when we don't feel as if we ourselves can fully control our own emotions. But, there are lots of ways we can inspire ourselves to keep our attitudes in check.
~ We can put inspirational quotes, thoughts, or scripture verses up where we can see them often. I do this. I have a saying on my mirror that reminds me to not get so stressed.
~ We can tell members of our family to give us a signal or a gentle reminder when they see us starting to get a little edgy.
~ We can get more exercise. Exercise is wonderful for producing endorphins that balance out stress and emotions.
~ We can pray.
Whatever tactic you use to guide you and balance your emotions & let it be something that encourages you and inspires you in the process.
Being a mom is grueling at times with no escape or breaks. Finding a system to help you process anger, frustration, or stress is smart and will be a lifesaver to you during the extra difficult times. Don't be afraid to use it.

~ Dionna Sanchez is the Founder of Emphasis On Moms at http://www.EmphasisOnMoms.com

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*HEARTSTRINGS*
Matters of the Heart ~ By Grace Fox

"Guess what?" I shouted as I ran across the yard toward my husband, Gene. "I just sold my second magazine article!" Several minutes prior, I'd received an acceptance letter from the editor of a major publication.
Gene grinned as I threw myself into his waiting arms. "Congratulations!" he said, giving me a huge hug.
I felt like a little girl, giddy with excitement after unwrapping a long-awaited gift on Christmas morning. The fulfillment of my heart's desire brought great joy, but sharing that joy with my best friend before telling anyone else made it complete. He knew the effort I'd put into researching and writing that article. He'd prayed with me as I placed the manuscript in the mail. He felt my emotional ups and downs as I waited for a reply. And now he was rejoicing with me in my success.
During our 23-year marriage, Gene and I have bared our souls and shared our goals, dreams, and disappointments with each other. We've laughed and cried and prayed together. We've discussed deep matters of the heart & secrets privy only to us. The result? Our hearts and souls and minds have bonded. We're one.
A friend recently told me that her husband had confessed to a lengthy affair with a co-worker, a woman who shared his passion for sports. It began with harmless office conversations about their mutual interests. Before long, however, those conversations turned intimate. She shared her dreams and frustrations; he shared his. They plunged headlong into forbidden territory, sharing matters of the heart reserved only for husband and wife. Their hearts and souls knit. Table talk evolved into pillow talk.
Sharing interesting conversation with others sounds normal and innocent, at first. But if it leads to sharing our heart issues with someone other than our spouse, that's when trouble begins.
Audrey Meisner, co-author of Marriage Under Cover (Milestones International Publishers, 2005), agrees. Falling into that trap nearly ended her 18-year marriage. In her book, Meisner writes:
"Whenever we share more deeply with someone other than our spouse & whether male or female & even to the point of sharing news first with this other person, we have entered the arena of soulical adultery. It is the first step towards sexual adultery. It means we are bonding and uniting with that person, giving to that person what belongs only in covenant."
Soulical adultery is a subtle enemy, eager to destroy intimacy between husband and wife. It happens in the workplace, in online chat rooms, in PTA groups, and even in church groups.
We can safeguard our marriages by keeping matters of the heart where they belong & between husband and wife. The result & a more intimate and joy-filled relationship & is well worth the effort.

~ Grace Fox is a popular retreat and conference speaker living in British Columbia, Canada. She's the author of 10-Minute Time Outs for Moms and 10-Minute Time Outs for Busy Women (Harvest House Publishers). Contact her through her website: www.gracefox.com.

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*WORDS*
Some Days ~ By Peggy Yengling

Jesus, some days it's not easy
To feel joy inside of me.
I know it's there; it's a gift from you
But, how do I set it free?

Jesus, some days it's not easy
Because I am sinful and weak.
It makes me sad when I let you down,
So forgiveness I must seek.

Jesus, some days it's not easy!
I just want to run to your arms.
I long to feel your gentle touch
And know you'll keep me from harm.

Jesus, some days it's not easy
To know what you want from me.
I wish I could come and talk with you
And sit upon your knee.

Jesus, some days it gets easier.
Through prayer, I understand.
If I reach out and seek you,
You will take my hand.

Jesus, some days it gets better
As I feel your love and peace.
Help me to accept your grace
So my sinning ways can cease.

Jesus, some days it is wonderful
For your joy is filling me!
It's almost overflowing
And ready for all to see.

Peggy Yengling

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*APPLAUSE! (Lady of the Month)*


Name: Bree

Husband's Name: Brian

Children's Names and Ages: Mia - age 1, Baby #2 on the
way!

City and State (or country):Springville, UT

What is something your kids have taught you? To find joy in the simple things

What are some of your favorite things about being a
woman? The honor of being a mother. I recently heard someone
say that the most critical role in society is that of
a mother. I know that this is what God wants women to
do.

Do you have close women friendships? How do you
cultivate them? I love to serve my friends, it really
builds a bond

How does TV, movies, and the media affect your
self-image? In general, TV and media have very low
standards. It sometimes makes me embarrassed for
people, the way they dress and act. They just don't
know their own worth. I'm grateful to know God's plan
for me, and that gives me much confidence in being the
person that I am.

How do you organize your time in regards to housework? I do the work throughout the week instead of doing it all in one day. That way, I don't get "burn-out."

What helps you thrive in a time where it's not always
easy to be a mom? I've found great strength in the many examples of
mothers that I've observed throughout my life. I find
comfort in knowing that there is strength in numbers!
It's wonderful to think that there are millions of
moms doing the same thing as I am, and have been ever
since the beginning.

What goal do you have for yourself when the children
are grown and out of the house? To continue being the best wife & mom that I can be. I hope to be a terrific grandma, too!


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*CREATIVE EXPRESSIONS*
Leaf Tablecloth ~ By Kelsie Turrey

Find a 100% cotton tablecloth and find some interesting leaves. If the tablecloth is new, make sure to wash it before you begin the project.

What you need:

Acrylic paint (in fall colors)
Textile medium
A rolling pin
Small paint brush
Paper plates and paper towels


Put colors mixed with textile medium on paper plates.
Paint the color onto the back side of the leaf (vein side) and then lay it paint side down onto the table cloth.
Cover leaf with paper towel and roll rolling pin over it.
Lift toweling and leaf gently up.
Continue this process all over the cloth until you are pleased with the results.
Press tablecloth with hot iron to set colors.

Tip: Using a cloth with a fall color (gold, light tan) blends nicely with the paint colors.

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*TIMEOUT*
Grocery Store Tensions ~ By Dionna Sanchez

I have to make a weekly trip to the grocery store. With three growing children, the food goes quickly around our house!
I must admit that I prefer going to the grocery store alone. If my husband tags along he usually tries to throw "extra's" into the cart and if my children tag along they can distract me from comparing prices or hurrying through this necessary task as quick as possible. At times I admit, I tersely tell them to "be quiet so I can think!" But nothing compares to the feeling I get when I see other moms with their children in the grocery store.
I don't know what happens to a mom when she needs to buy food for her family with her children around - but I think it's close to "paranoia" and "schizophrenia." I have been astonished as I've watched mothers yank on their children's arms, shove them out of the way of my cart, and firmly grip them by the neck as they usher them to the side of the aisle. I've seen children smacked, yelled at, and generally ridiculed in front of others.
Moms - WHAT ARE WE DOING???? Is it really worth hurting your child's arm or neck because they accidentally were in the way of another person's cart? How about a - "Tommy, watch where you are going okay?" Is it necessary to belittle your precious child because they accidentally threw two cans of soup on top of the bread?? Can't you just explain to them why heavier things smash the lighter things?
I have been horrified at our behavior. I see these children's eyes when "mom" can only see her anger. It breaks my heart. And it's gotten me to see how I took my own children's behavior in far too serious of a manner when shopping.
My girls have watched as moms have done these things to their children. Their eyes are wide-eyed and they take it all in. And do you know what I do when we are onlookers to one of these incidents? I wrap my arms around my girls and I tell them, "I love you." And they tell me, "I love you too, mommy."
I don't know why women act this way in grocery stores or other stores for that matter. I do know it's the "dark-side" of mothering that shames me because the emotions hit too close to home.
I wish I could appeal to any compassion in any mother and beg her, "Please, PLEASE do NOT handle your children physically or emotionally so roughly! If you could only see yourself in a mirror you would weep at your own ugly behavior."
I remember a day when I would watch moms beam and glow over their children. They would brag over them and laugh at their mistakes as they learned and grew. I don't know what happened to this kind of mothering, but if it's gone extinct then the future of our world is in great distress.
Lord - let me be a mother to make my children proud. Let me teach them kindness, gentleness, patience, compassion, joy, self-control, and long-suffering. No squished Twinkie could ever matter as much.

~ Dionna Sanchez shares from her heart as the Founder of Emphasis On Moms. You can visit the website at http://www.EmphasisOnMoms.com or Dionna's blog at http://www.emphasisonmoms.blogspot.com

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*ROMANCE FACTOR*
Look at your photo albums together with your husband. Laugh and reminisce.

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